What Are the Algorithims Trying to Tell Me?

What is the world trying to tell me? Robert Frost is popping into my scroll today. Maybe the algorithm is saying, hey you, yeah you, you are not going to ignore feelings. And I'm just - I can't. But that f&*(er is being persistent, and he is all about deep diving into the ethos of… Continue reading What Are the Algorithims Trying to Tell Me?

Facing Cancer and Loss: Reflections on Family Bonds

Since March of 2022 I have lost two siblings, Larry to Covid-19 and Becky to pancreatic cancer, and now within this past month two brothers have become gravely ill. And others have serious health issues that they live with on the daily. This is life in middle age. I love being from a big family… Continue reading Facing Cancer and Loss: Reflections on Family Bonds

When Others Make You Feel Not Good Enough

We've all had those moments - sometimes fleeting, other times painfully persistent - when someone's words or actions make us doubt our own value. It can come from a seemingly innocuous comment, a comparison to someone else, or an outright criticism. Suddenly, it leaves you questioning if you measure up, if you're worthy, if you… Continue reading When Others Make You Feel Not Good Enough

Gratitude Month: Welcoming November’s Thankfulness

November marks Gratitude Month, a time for reflection and appreciation in the cozy atmosphere of autumn. Emphasizing gratitude's significance, the writer shares personal goals like keeping a gratitude journal, expressing thanks, and fostering community gratitude. They suggest various practices to deepen gratitude, encouraging a culture of kindness and connection.

Older Siblings: The Unsung Role Models in Our Lives

How Big Brothers and Sisters Shape Who We Become I was having a conversation with my younger sister Angie last week about something my oldest brother said off-handed to me a few years ago - that we did not grow up together. It seemed important to him that my husband understood this. It is a… Continue reading Older Siblings: The Unsung Role Models in Our Lives

Living Through Layers: My Journey with Hidradenitis Suppurativa After Cancer, Covid, and More

The author reflects on their difficult health journey from 2020 to 2025, marked by diagnoses including diabetes, COVID-19, and breast cancer. Following grief and physical challenges, they also confront Hidradenitis Suppurativa, an incurable autoimmune disease. Despite struggles, they emphasize resilience, self-compassion, and the importance of community support through chronic illness.

Ozzy’s Passing: The Unexpected Weight of Loss

Reflections on GenX Apathy, Nihilism, and the Outsider's Truth I've tried writing about Ozzy Osbourne's passing multiple times in the past few weeks. The words and feelings have been swirling around me. His songs have been time traveling earworms. I've been transported back to the 70s as an elementary school student with an older brother… Continue reading Ozzy’s Passing: The Unexpected Weight of Loss

How Old Photos Help Us Remember Loved Ones

It's my mom's birthday. She would have been 88 today. It's strange to think how many family events she's missed in these past seven years. She was the glue that held us together. I wish I still had her counsel and support. I miss her nuggets of wisdom. I also miss her over the top… Continue reading How Old Photos Help Us Remember Loved Ones

The Double-Edged Sword of Nostalgia

Hello, everyone... I'm 156 years old and I have been listening to post punk / alternative for 87 years, and this song, this song that found me via Mobland, has saved my life. This band is pure, raw talent. Please enjoy it along with this newest post. https://youtu.be/P5iNkBw9K74?si=P9IyPagR0CR36dbF Down the Rabbit Hole Today I need… Continue reading The Double-Edged Sword of Nostalgia

The Magic of Ordinary Days

I've been in nesting mode. I get this way every year as Indian summer ebbs into fall. My thoughts meander. Maybe my real happy ending is falling in love with the simplest parts of life - savoring that first sip of morning decaf, losing myself in the stillness of an October sunrise, or smelling freshly… Continue reading The Magic of Ordinary Days

The Crone Redefined: GenX Rebellion Against Aging Stereotypes

Generation X, currently facing empty nest and retirement, is redefining the three stages of womanhood - maiden, mother, and crone. They embrace each phase with resilience and independence, debunking stereotypes and embracing wisdom with a dash of sass. Embracing the term "crone" as a badge of honor, they continue to rock out at concerts and start new ventures, embodying a renaissance spirit.

Choosing Happiness Now: Embracing Life’s Journey

I have been guilty of mentally thinking of life will be better when throughout my life, in some phases more than others. There have been times when it seemed to me that life was about to start - real life. but there was always some obstacle in the way, some thing to be gotten through… Continue reading Choosing Happiness Now: Embracing Life’s Journey

One Year… I’m still here

Our scars can destroy us, even after the physical wounds have healed. But if we survive them, they can transform us. They can give us power to endure and strength to fight. The Batman The subtext of The Batman movie is not dissimilar to the cancer journey. In this case the sadistic killer is cancer.… Continue reading One Year… I’m still here

Milestone Reflection: Battling Breast Cancer and Setting Goals for the Future

Hello friends... Wow, what a year I have had. This past year my milestone age didn't really sink in with all of what that means. I've had a singularity of focus - battling breast cancer. On this last day of this year, I'm feeling like time is catching up with me. Usually when I hit… Continue reading Milestone Reflection: Battling Breast Cancer and Setting Goals for the Future

10 Reasons Why I Love Being Married to My Amazing Husband

I'm having a gratitude moment for my husband. He's my favorite person and partner on our humble road of life together. He's been a rockstar with the challenges we've faced this past year in handling everything in our lives and caring for me so that I only had to focus on getting through cancer treatment… Continue reading 10 Reasons Why I Love Being Married to My Amazing Husband

Curated Lives vs. Authenticity: Rediscovering Happiness in My Unique Story

Here I go again, comparing my life to someone else’s life. How easy it is to get lost in self-flagellation when comparing one’s life with the curated lives we see on social media. How easy it is to get lost in examining what we feel are our failures in those moments, in comparison to someone… Continue reading Curated Lives vs. Authenticity: Rediscovering Happiness in My Unique Story

Revisiting Northern Exposure

For years I've wanted to re-watch Northern Exposure and finally it's on Amazon Prime Video. I loved that show and would reference it occasionally in conversation, as recent as six months ago. Happy dance it's back!! I finished the re-watch a couple of weeks ago. Through it I was thinking about my experience watching it… Continue reading Revisiting Northern Exposure

My Gen X Playlist: In My Life – The Beatles

Reblog frim another great poster... Hey. You made it. The big one oh oh. I know we agreed to write this letter as somewhat of a joke, but there was a part of me that secretly hoped you would actually read this. So here we are. My biggest hope is that your years have been… Continue reading My Gen X Playlist: In My Life – The Beatles

Day 195: Morning Fog

"Dreams are postcards from the subconscious, inner self to outer self, right brain trying to cross that moat to the left. Too often they come back unread: 'return to sender, addressee unknown.' That's a shame because it's a whole other world out there - or in here depending on your point of view." Dennis Koenig… Continue reading Day 195: Morning Fog

Day 171, 10 Days Post Last Chemo, Stay Golden Ponyboy

Day 171 I'm in the mindset that it only gets better from here. I'm in the nadir of my last chemo cycle, so I'm feeling pretty down - exhausted, weak, and have neuropathy and chemo brain. But I feel better days are on the horizon. I just have to get through the next thing, radiation.… Continue reading Day 171, 10 Days Post Last Chemo, Stay Golden Ponyboy